The Danger of Drifting…

When I talk about drifting, I’m not referring to the kind you see in The Fast and the Furious or The Italian Job, where cars slide around corners at high speed.

I’m talking about the kind of drifting that happens in life.

Drifting is dangerous because it rarely happens all at once. It happens slowly, quietly, and almost unnoticed. The scary part is that drifting doesn’t require any effort. It’s unintentional, yet over time it carries us to places we never intended to go.

A few years ago, my girls and I were at the beach. Before they got into the ocean, I told them to stay where they could always see me. As they played in the waves, I kept watching them, and everything seemed fine.

Then, after a while, they looked up to find me—but I wasn’t where they thought I would be.

The truth is, I hadn’t moved. They had.

Without realizing it, the current had carried them a long way down the beach. They weren’t trying to go anywhere. They simply stopped paying attention and drifted with the current.

I’ve used that illustration at church camp to show students how easy it is to drift away from God. You will never accidentally drift into a close relationship with God, but you can very easily drift away from Him if you’re not intentional.

If you’d ever like to talk more about what it means to be intentional in your relationship with God, I’d love to visit with you. Just send me a message.

The more I think about it, though, the more I realize this principle applies to every area of life—not just our faith.

When I look at my own life and the lives of those around me, I see people drifting all the time. Most of the time, drifting takes us backward—to old habits, old mindsets, and places we thought we had left behind. Left unchecked, drifting can leave us discouraged, dissatisfied, broken, and wondering how we got there.

Some Ways We Drift

We drift back into old habits. We return to unhealthy patterns or vices that once had a hold on us, damaging us physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.

We drift back into unhealthy thinking. Negative thoughts begin to shape our identity, fueling insecurity, low self-esteem, anxiety, or even depression.

We drift into complacency. We become comfortable with the status quo and stop pursuing the dreams God has placed in our hearts.

We drift out of relationships. Friendships weaken, marriages grow distant, and family relationships suffer—not because of one big moment, but because of many small moments of neglect.

We drift into indifference. We stop caring about what’s happening around us and become content to simply exist instead of making a difference.

We drift spiritually. We begin living life our own way instead of God’s way. The result is often chaos instead of peace, frustration instead of joy, and emptiness instead of fulfillment.

The Cure for Drifting

The only way to stop drifting is to become intentional.

I’ve missed out on opportunities and blessings because there were seasons when I simply drifted through life. Looking back, I wish I had been more intentional in many areas.

If you find yourself drifting, don’t stay there. Choose to live intentionally.

Be intentional…

With your habits. Change what needs to change so you can become healthier physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

With your thinking. Take negative thoughts captive and replace them with truth. Surround yourself with people who encourage you—or better yet, become someone who encourages others.

With your dreams. Don’t settle. If you don’t like where you are, take intentional steps toward where you want to be.

With your relationships. Healthy relationships don’t happen by accident. They grow because someone intentionally invests time, love, forgiveness, and encouragement.

With your purpose. If you want to make a difference, you must live on purpose. Impact is never accidental.

With your relationship with God. If you want lasting peace, joy, and purpose, pursue Him intentionally every day.

Final Thoughts

These aren’t just observations—they’re lessons I’ve learned personally. I’ve drifted in some of these areas, both in the past and even recently. I certainly haven’t mastered them, but I am intentionally working on them every day.

Being intentional takes effort.

Drifting is easy.

But the life you’ll build by living intentionally is worth every bit of the effort.

Don’t drift. Become intentional.

*This is a rewrite from a facebook post I wrote in 2024.  

A Love Beyond Measure…

“The Lord passed in front of Moses, calling out, “Yahweh! The Lord! The God of compassion and mercy! I am slow to anger and filled with unfailing love and faithfulness.”
‭‭Exodus‬ ‭34‬:‭6‬ ‭NLT‬‬

This morning, as I sit high above the ocean watching the waves crash upon the shore, I find myself reminiscing about my oldest daughter, Caity Grace. Tomorrow she turns 18, and that is hard to believe. My baby girl is growing up so fast.

I miss the days when she was little and relied on me for everything. Now she is pretty independent and can handle most things life throws her way. I feel like her mother and I have done a pretty good job preparing her for life in general.

However, there are still times when she calls me or walks up and asks a simple yet powerful question—a question that brings a smile to my face and sometimes fear to my soul.

That question is: “Dad, how much do you love me?”

Usually, that question comes with a sly grin because she wants or “needs” something. It brings a smile to my face because, in that moment, she still needs her daddy. It also brings a little fear to my soul because I start wondering how much it’s going to cost me! LOL.

But in all seriousness, I love it when she asks that question, no matter what she needs. The reason is simple: Caity knows that I love her beyond measure. That is something I tell her and her sister, Megan, quite often.

As I think about that phrase—I love you beyond measure—I am reminded this morning of God’s immeasurable love for us. Throughout Scripture, I have found one truth repeated over and over again: God’s love for us is both unfailing and faithful. In fact, this theme appears more than 150 times throughout the book of Psalms. God is faithful to love us, and His love never fails.

Ed Newton, pastor of Community Bible Church in San Antonio, wrote:

“God’s love is four-dimensional—wide enough to embrace every person, long enough to last through all eternity, high enough to lift you to Heaven, and deep enough to find you in your darkest moment. This is a love that cannot be exhausted or measured.”

Talk about a love that is unfailing and beyond measure! Talk about a love that is faithful!

That love embraces every person on this planet—including me and you. That’s right, you, the one reading this. His love is unconditional and never expires. I don’t know if you realize how long eternity is, but it has no end—and neither does God’s love for you.

Have you ever looked up into the sky on a clear night and seen the stars? Those stars are millions of miles away, yet God’s love reaches even farther than that. And what about the depth of His love in our darkest moments?

I don’t know about you, but I have walked through some deep and dark seasons in my life—times when I thought the pain would never end. Yet when I look back, I can clearly see that it was God’s faithful and unfailing love that carried me through.

This morning, I am thankful for a love that truly is beyond measure—the love that Abba Father has for me. It is unfailing, and it remains faithful even when I am not faithful to Him. Which reminds me of my favorite passage where Jesus asked Peter, “Do you love Me?” in John 21—but that’s a post for another day.

So today, are you thankful for a love that is beyond measure?

Father, thank You for Your unfailing and faithful love. Thank You for loving me even when I feel unlovable. Your love truly is beyond measure. Amen.

Listening to Ocean Waves and Red Flags.

“Remember what it says: “Today when you hear his voice…”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭3‬:‭15‬a ‭NLT

“I listen carefully to what God the Lord is saying, for he speaks peace to his faithful people. But let them not return to their foolish ways.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭85‬:‭8‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Vacation is here! Before everyone got up, I decided to take a jog down the beach. Well, in all honesty, it was more of a slow trot with some walking mixed in. It was harder than I thought it would be, but I got it done!

Afterward, I sat out on the balcony and spent some time reading and journaling while watching and listening to the waves roll onto the shore. It was so peaceful. Even though the cool ocean breeze was blowing pretty hard, I could still hear the sound of the waves crashing. So relaxing.

The sun was shining bright, but we probably won’t be getting into the ocean today because of the strong tides. It’s a double red flag 🚩🚩 day.

I’ll come back to that in a moment.

As I sat there enjoying the peaceful sounds of the ocean, I felt the Spirit say, “Jacob, if you would listen to Me more, you would have more peace.”

As I thought about that statement, I realized that much of the chaos and stress in my life comes from not listening to God. I thought about all the times I lacked peace, and often it was because I ignored God’s warnings—you know, those red flags 🚩🚩.

Every morning, the beach authorities determine whether it is safe to enter the ocean. When there are double red flags flying, it means stay out! The danger is real, even if you can’t see it from the shore.

God does the same thing in my life through the Holy Spirit. Time and time again, He warns me about things that will only bring chaos, stress, and heartache. He sees dangers ahead that I cannot see.

As I sat on the balcony listening to the waves, I began to wonder: What if I listened to God’s voice the same way I was listening to the ocean? What if I tuned my heart to Him with that same attentiveness?

How much more peaceful would my life be?

When God directs my life and shows me warning signs, I need to listen. He knows what’s ahead of me. He sees what I cannot see. Just as those red flags on the beach are there for my protection, God’s warnings are given for my good.

I need to listen to God’s voice more.

I need more peace in my life.

How about you? Do you listen to the red flags?

Prayer

Lord, help me listen to Your voice as You guide my life. Give me the wisdom to recognize Your warnings and the courage to obey them. As I follow Your direction, fill my heart with the peace that only You can give. Amen.

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